Therapy
Healing - Addiction - Sexuality - Game of Life
Dimitri has an Australian Diploma of Counselling (2018).
He has been helping men and women heal their emotional wounds and sexual issues for the past 10 years - working at his own practice and for an online Men’s Sexual Health Clinic (Vityl) - totalling more than 1000 client-contact hours. A key component of his research revolves around the creation and interpretation of the particular narrative and semiotics of sexual fantasies. He is a member of the Society of Australian Sexologists (2019).
Unpopular People Podcast:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQ3H_fUgQn0
New Paradigm Intimacy Podcast:
https://podtail.com/fr/podcast/new-paradigm-intimacy/healing-from-pornography-sex-addiction-with-dimitr/
The Fanny Mechanic Podcast:
https://omny.fm/shows/the-fanny-mechanic/pornography-addiction-with-dimitri-douchin
“Every person goes through a journey of wounding.
Imagine a world where every person goes through a journey of healing.
Where happiness emerges from a collective sense of inner peace.”
— Dimitri Douchin
Unhooked
“My personal journey of wounding took me through addictions to sex and pornography.
Today I am so proud of having overcome those limitations, the shame and the hurt.
Out of this healing that lasted several years emerged a strong desire to help people through their hurt, to make the world progress not with more technology and more comfort, but with more happiness.
Beyond pornography addiction, this journey of healing took me way further than simply changing my behaviour with addictions. I came to heal the deep unconscious emotional wounds I was carrying within me and to live the simple, aligned, balanced life I had always aspired to.
From this healing, I discovered a unique technique that absolutely blew me away. I obtained a Diploma of Counselling, and I now share these methods with my clients who wish to quit pornography or to heal their wounds.
Healing traumas and emotional wounds is simple, extremely efficient and everyone has wounds to heal from their journey of living. I want to build a world where everybody has had the opportunity to heal their wounds, and to live with full agency, taking place in the world with joy, purpose and happiness.”
Emotional Reprocessing Therapy (ERT)
Traditional “talk-therapy” like the ubiquitous cognitive behaviroural therapy are helpful in identifying dysfunctional patterns within our lives - a great first step to actualisation.
The next step consists in identifying the wounds that have led us to create those dysfunctional patterns and to heal those deep, emotional, unconscious wounds at the root. We call them trauma, repressed emotions, the shadow, the core wound.
Some techniques such as EMDR or Maieusthesia - and the healing techniques from many Indigenous peoples - offer this healing and integration. I founded my own branch that I called Emotional Reprocessing Therapy (ERT).
Watch this space for a new ERT platform soon!
Fantasy Analysis
Sigmund Freud changed our understanding of the psyche forever when he posited the existence of the Unconscious Mind, and some interpretations to sexual fantasies as expression of the subconscious.
At the individual level (and collective too), it is possible to analyse our Sexual Fantasies like we would analyse a beautiful painting. By combining semiotics, iconography, narratology and psychoanalysis, we can understand the origin of the sexual fantasies (why “they have chosen us” more so than why we have chosen them) and their fixation.
If the fantasy is undesirable in one’s life (i.e. its manifestation leads to actions that are non-consensual, illegal or impossible), Emotional Reprocessing Therapy (ERT) can help alleviate the fixation and move on to more integrated sexual behaviours, free from harmful sexual tendencies.
This has to be the richest, most beautiful, most fascinating science of them all! By diving into the realm of sexual fantasies, we dive into the quintessential fabric of what it is that makes us human.
More research, publications and guidance on this topic are coming in the future.
Qualitative Tapering
When people trying to overcome their addiction, they will typically try to go “cold turkey”, to stay away from the addictive behaviour or substance.
In traditional psychology, tapering is sometimes recommended, where the patient reduces their consumption of the addictive stimulus over time.
I would like to propose another method that I call Qualitative Tapering - whereby the client, instead of reducing the quantity of stimulation over time, will reduce the quality of the stimulation they receive over time, progressively weakening the attachment that they have to the addicting stimulus.
I have personally used this method for my own healing and recovery and I use it with my clients with a great level of progress.
More research about Qualitative Tapering is ongoing.
Game of Life
Every human is born with a unique set of skills, values, aspirations and purpose.
Once we have healed our wounds, nothing can stop us in the way of expressing our purpose.
The Game of Life consists in creating as much value as possible for our community using those tools we were given.
More on the Game of Life soon!